tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22668996.post8396818409713945281..comments2024-03-28T08:18:24.545+03:00Comments on Hypnotic Verses: yeah, ok, i'm a witch but w/ a "b"Um Naiefhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03079700156633283396noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22668996.post-66137613513460465082007-01-08T13:53:00.000+03:002007-01-08T13:53:00.000+03:00olivia, i'll tell ya, those spanish or latina hous...<b>olivia</b>, i'll tell ya, those spanish or latina housekeepers ARE the best. my sister had one come in and she was sooo impressed at how well she cleaned... things that my sister hadn't even touched in a long time were spotless. i only wish we got the same here - and maybe some do, but i have yet to find anyone like this. my FIL's business is bringing in these women and such, and the women they have, i wouldn't even have in my home. but they have 4 or so women working in their house, so things stay tip top all the time and such. <br /><br /><b>wendy</b>, yes, i agree... dealing w/ this stress is something i don't want right now. the hubby heard from me on this as well.. and his needing to support how i feel about this, not that he doesn't but he's much more reserved about how he handles it than me and i sometimes have a hard time w/ that, and what really gets me is that he can say things one time to her and she does it, but me... it takes me time and time again to get her to do something. as far as sending them elsewhere to live, no... that would cost too much and my FIL would never agree to that and since her husband works for him, it wouldn't be possible. they are living outside the house now, in a room outside, which is tons better, but i found out today that they have stopped up the entire plumbing system in that room and we have to call a service now to come and clean the pipes - what they've been putting down the toilet and such - i can only imagine. i will keep her until i have the baby and to help at first because i'm having a c-section, BUT... she will not be dealing w/ or handling the baby. after that, i will clean myself. and no, i only wish i could get help like an aunt or MIL, but they do NO CLEANING whatsoever... and have multiple housemaids in their employment to do everything. life here is totally different and most do nothing whatsoever w/ respect to cleaning and such. i'm looked at oddly for doing things myself, to be honest. if anything, his mother would send over one of her indonesian housemaids and i can't stand those women, so i would never do it. w/ our girl, i insist on her being clean, washing her hands regularly and such, altho it's very difficult to get her to bathe.... which i'm assuming is because it's cold here, i'm not sure. my big thing right now is just allowing myself to dismiss things and not getting upset about something.. and like you, a little dust doesn't bother me, but pure filth, i will not put up w/. our house is not dirty, but her room is what sent me into a rage. i insist on everything being clean and have to stay on top of her w/ the slightest thing. honestly, i expect no less of her than i expect from myself.<br /><br /><b>gazza</b>, yes, i totally agree. them peeing on the top of the toilet seat totally disgusted me. how someone can be so dirty is beyond me, and it makes me wonder how they lived in their country, who cleaned there and did the do the same there - which is probably yes. oh believe me... the baby won't be around that room she's in or be handled by her, so no dirtiness will be transferred to the baby. i'm really a germ phob, so i don't plan on allowing her to do anything w/out my knowledge and w/out my knowing that she's clean before she ever tried to touch the baby.Um Naiefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03079700156633283396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22668996.post-44016609642396688632007-01-08T04:47:00.000+03:002007-01-08T04:47:00.000+03:00tooners,do your self a favour and get rid of those...tooners,do your self a favour and get rid of those losers,for one thing you dont need the stress,and two things,you cant be bringing a new baby into filth,the piss thing is disgusting never mind the ants overrunning your house,it's not going to get any better while thay are their!Gazhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13115936062234557023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22668996.post-17197565570992019392007-01-07T13:23:00.000+03:002007-01-07T13:23:00.000+03:00Oh my - you don't need to fill your mind with all...Oh my - you don't need to fill your mind with all this stuff when you are ready for a little baby to fill your life with sweetness! Hey, just give her a handful of hair clips. <br />Can't you sack her?<br />About cleanliness - well, it's grotty alright do they have to live on your premises? Can't they live downtown?<br />It's just not on for you to be hassled like this.<br />But one thing - I'm very casual about things like a bit of dust - but I am fussy about people leaving plates of food around. Kitchen stuff has to be moderately tidy.<br />Your husband has to be supportive of you NOW when you are distressed like this. Get another woman to help urgently - even one of his aunts of his mum. Don't have a paid househelper because this one just isn't worth it.<br />W.Peceli and Wendy's Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01165668047817341837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22668996.post-47522616155067593422007-01-07T08:38:00.000+03:002007-01-07T08:38:00.000+03:00Oh man, I can never understand people like that. ...Oh man, I can never understand people like that. How does she clean your house and then not clean her own room? <br />And no no no, you were not a bitch - just asking for what you expect from someone in your employ. And you approach it well, since it seems just talking is not enough.<br /><br />Our house keeper in Tx was from El Salvador and was perfection itself. My cousin had one from Guyana and she was the tops. I can't believe Bahrain is so full of terrible domestic staff, how bloody annoying...<br /><br />*hugs*Oliviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04014351759393921274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22668996.post-76180750756152541432007-01-06T21:36:00.000+03:002007-01-06T21:36:00.000+03:00Well, the reason I felt like a bitch earlier was b...Well, the reason I felt like a bitch earlier was becuase I felt bad when I saw that she was crying and because when I look back at how angry I got, I think I'm sometimes bad about scaring ppl. Altho, the hubby told me, when I told him she was crying, that it was probably all for show. She acts like a princess most days, lies and says she's done things when it's obvious she hasn't... so, if it doesn't change, she'll see more and more of my mean moods. Sadly, when I'm nice, they take advantage of me.<br /><br />And yes, <b>one wink</b>, that's how I feel... like I'm getting experience in dealing w/ trouble. I'll be more than prepared when the baby comes if he messes w/ me! ;) ;)Um Naiefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03079700156633283396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22668996.post-79913114243407292632007-01-06T21:17:00.000+03:002007-01-06T21:17:00.000+03:00I agree with the others about you not being a 'bit...I agree with the others about you not being a 'bitch' in this situation because it appears that the couple don't seem to understand any other approach. In fact, I just can't fathom people like these - why do they not listen when talked to properly? Why do they 'get it' only when we lose our cool? I've met quite a few people who just look through me if I talk or request nicely, but if I raise my voice and talk rudely then immediately they understand everything. Wonder why some people are like that...??!!Ashish Gordehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10105222512599129308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22668996.post-59495593558375855232007-01-06T20:35:00.000+03:002007-01-06T20:35:00.000+03:00I support what you did. but i would support u more...I support what you did. but i would support u more if you could do it without getting so angry. you are pregnant, dear.<br /><br />If what you did is bitchie, then what is not? Come on, u were good i would react worse. <br /><br />So after such stress you need to spend few weeks in back yard at the fresh air looking at the flowers:)<br /><br />Take it easy, even if its hard. Try.Puppyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07469920432368113150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22668996.post-14737184919321544372007-01-06T20:03:00.000+03:002007-01-06T20:03:00.000+03:00Tooners, please don't call yourself a bitch, I thi...Tooners, please don't call yourself a bitch, I think you made your expectations quite clear and they are not abiding by your wishes and taking priviledges that are totally uncalled for. I would hate to be in your position but you are doing the right thing. Sounds like you are getting experience for dealing with an unruly child...One Wink at a Timehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00376243777796535015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22668996.post-84332628665228923942007-01-06T18:40:00.000+03:002007-01-06T18:40:00.000+03:00moody, he's a maintenance and yard guy. he basica...<b>moody</b>, he's a maintenance and yard guy. he basically does whatever they need - cleaning and such. when his wife first came here to work for us, he started slacking big time on his duties and my FIL got very angry and gave him a big talking to - and they basically told him that he could only see his wife once a week and couldn't stay here w/ her. since moving her to the room outside, he has moved back in w/ her but w/out the knowledge of my FIL and such. his work has gotten better because my FIL doesn't put up w/ anything and would get rid of him in an instant if he wasn't doing a good job... so, basically, he stays pretty afraid of my FIL like everyone employed by him. i was told that money has come up missing at my MILs school and they think he's taking coins at night when he's cleaning, but there is no proof to this... i don't know if he's doing it or not.Um Naiefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03079700156633283396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22668996.post-18574651943704237472007-01-06T18:20:00.000+03:002007-01-06T18:20:00.000+03:00The man works for your FIL? What does he do? And...The man works for your FIL? What does he do? And how is his behavior there?The Moody Minstrelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16342935635794595909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22668996.post-29538558497361823392007-01-06T15:51:00.000+03:002007-01-06T15:51:00.000+03:00Tooners, you're not a bitch, their behaviour is ou...Tooners, you're not a bitch, their behaviour is out of line, you were quite right to say all that you did. It's your house and your possessions.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com