Friday, November 06, 2009

a tad of this life

I'm bored today.... stiff, really. We took Naief to emergency last night w/ fever, cough, runny nose and whatnot, and first thing they wanted to do was send him to Salminiya to get H1N1 vaccine... which I quickly refused. Instead I got antibiotics and the other necessary drugs to help fight off this cold. They're not even doing tests for swine flu now... immediately send you for the injection if you have any of those above symptoms. How incredibly crazy is that???? So, he's sleeping... has a small, elevated temp, but all in all, is ok. We've been watching Polar Express most of the day..... and if his fever is down, might take him out to get some art supplies for painting... thought it might be fun to make flowers out of paper plates and then plant them in our outside garden. Need more paint though and a plastic thing for the table and we're set.

Hashim left last night for Belgium. Will be gone until Tuesday.... and since today is Friday, family lunch, how did I know that no food would be sent over here. How can I expect it or even think it might happen especially seeing that I royally pissed off the queen of all queen bees..... MIL. She rules that family.... have known it from the very beginning... all the lies.... all the things I was told that weren't the truth... but for the sake of my husband and to hopelessly want them to accept me, I never said a word. Just let things run their course... bitched a lot to friends and my husband (which isn't really the greatest thing to do).... but when you have so much anger... and pain... it happens.

Somebody, think Queen, remarked on my blog comments about the school that was supposed to be started up...... all I can do is laugh about this. Have to. I knew pretty quickly where things were headed. I was told... or rather my husband... one thing and when it came down to actually doing it, it wasn't going to be my way at all. They chose the designs, told me how it would be decorated, laid out, what to buy or not to buy - not giving the necessary money like promised to buy all the essentials - which I knew would happen. And it's not cheap to go out and buy stuff to start a nursery. It was obvious to me that it would be the same as what had been happening before w/ maybe a few minor changes... THE BIGGEST.... an AMERICAN teaching. and... for anyone who has read my blog or knows me... there is a reason behind this... but I wont get into it now.

Also, I was told I could hire however many ppl I wanted, which also turned out to be a lie. I was almost forced to hire to Bahraini's from her school and one couldn't even speak English!!!!! She had been the person to change diapers at her nursery... I flat out refused. Then was told to hire another woman that I didn't want to work with.... again refusing. So I sat out to post my own ads, which had to be okayed by her, needless to say, and the interviews began... in front of her at first, until I put a stop to that. But that didn't stop her from being involved and asking questions and okaying everything w/ my FIL. WHY HE WAS IN THE PICTURE.... I don't know.

Then... when it came down to buying books, materials, furniture.... play things, all the things YOU HAVE TO HAVE for a nursery, it wasn't happening. Hashim and I went to the BSPCA sale they were having and picked up many books, and purchased a bunch of cute pillows (that we took back), but as far as getting anything else that would be beneficial for having a nursery for 2 to 4 yr olds..... it just wasn't happening. And we didn't have tons of money to go out and buy all of this stuff... so I was told to wait. To open the nursery w/out anything... just a few books, which she showed me what she had, and put all the stuffed animals she had at her school (which were filthy) and the broken toys they had in many rooms in the nursery... and I refused.

There is soooooooooooooooooo much stuff.... it makes my head spin to sit and think about it.... and then.... my SIL started getting involved. Telling me who I was going to hire, making the rules - what hours it would operate - who would stay there, who would open the school, my refusal to allow sick children at the school (which they about had a heart attack over).... just everything really....

I told my husband that I couldn't do it. That I wouldn't do it. So he told his mother... who asked if this was my decision or his decision.... and knowing what we know about what you have to do in these parts ... he told her that it was his decision.

NOW..... after all of that... even being told to cut my vacation short so I could come here and start this school (this was all before I decided not to do it)..... they are selling the lease to the school and to that nursery!!!!!!!!!!!! Something I think was going to be done all along, but was being hidden or just not told to us. Here.... we would have bought all that stuff.... with no matter to her, obviously.... because after all, she was selling it. No wonder she didn't want or refused to give money to buy the necessary items when we were told it would be the case.

I was told by my husband that his mother thinks I should work for the new ppl.... NO THANK YOU. I do not want to work in a nursery.... or a school.... or teach. I have decided this. I'd like to do something along the lines of this Kindermusik... which I've looked in to, but I do not and will not try to teach again... and WILL NEVER GO INTO ANY BUSINESS WITH the in-laws.

This... may be boring for some of you... but I swear.. I think it could be a sitcom.... a successful one to boot. This is just a taste of what has happened recently.... two wks ago another situation happened.... this one bigger.... so... anyone interested in something like this... maybe we could make a go at it. Look at how big Raymond was.... but you know, the sad thing about all of this is... so many of my friends who are married to Bahrainis get the same stuff.... if not more. It's sad.

But... hey... I feel better for writing it here..... if I could get my dang blogger to go back into English, I'd start a new blog.... so I'm working on this.

12 comments:

Peceli and Wendy's Blog said...

Gosh you are having a rough time of it. Living in a cross-cultural situation certainly has its difficulties. I can understand that you need to be yourself and have some control over your household and plans.
Do you like music a lot? Maybe a little group of children to do music things - Kodaly style - might be possible, rather than a full-on nursery school. Meanwhile take good care of your own health and find time for contemplation/ meditation or whatever you do to have that space for quietening down.
Wendy

Christopher said...

Hugs!

Puppy said...

How r u doing now? I droped u a text message day before yesterday. Did u receive it?

How is Naief? How r u? Doing well?

Olivia said...

Grrr, I can feel the frustration. *hugs*
So glad I can catch up with you elsewhere...

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The Moody Minstrel said...

Good grief...and I thought I was having serious issues with in-laws...
You've been having to deal with some serious suckage! I'm sorry to hear that...and it's also a shame your dreams ended up in ashes.

At least you're standing your ground and not letting yourself be yanked around like a trained monkey. I've had to deal with that scenario enough, to be sure! I guess that's part of being the foreign member of a mixed-culture couple; the people around you in the host culture tend to see you as being ignorant by default.

無奈 said...

Give a fool enough rope and he will hang himself........................................

Peceli and Wendy's Blog said...

Hey, where are you? Haven't posted anything for a while. Have a good holiday at Christmas time anyway.
w.

Néphèle said...

It is not quite like you to be absent for like a couple of months.. so I am really hoping you are doing well...

Happy Happy New Year, and if you decide to set up a new blog, could you pin an email address here on your profile so that we can mail you and find out where your new nook?

Thanks,

N. xx

Um Naief said...

i don't know what to say... for one, this post wasn't meant to be posted... and i'm just realizing, today, that it's here... and haven't been reading my blog comments for a long while now... obviously.

sometimes being so honest is scary... but one needs to be true to self.

i'm doing better. haven't been seeing the in-laws for a while now and it's better like this. naief sees them and plays w/ his cousins, but i am not... for now. :)

Christopher said...

I love the camel pics, Naief is just so excited in that pic when Hashim gets a kiss, I wish I could see his whole face to see the excitement.

Christopher said...

I love the camel pics, Naief is just so excited in that pic when Hashim gets a kiss, I wish I could see his whole face to see the excitement.