Thursday, October 12, 2006

wanna know a secret?

Are you good at keeping secrets? This part of the world is really bad w/ gossip... don't think I'd trust anyone w/ a secret. I have only a few close ppl that I share things w/ and tell things to and know, if I told them something, that no one would find out. I guess that I should add that I have made the mistake of telling things to a few ppl, only to be shown that, indeed, you can't trust even those that tell you that you can trust them.. in this part of the world. I guess it's a cultural thing. Even in families, secrets aren't kept.

Even the men in this part of the world are like women w/ gossip and telling things to ppl. I wouldn't even trust a man w/ something private... not that I go around telling every joe my little morsels of lusty, mouth watering information... yeah, like I have anything that juicy!! ;) But seriously, guys are really bad here. They sit around and gossip worse than women!!

I have been told secrets though in the past, never to share them w/ anyone, except when I got married, then I shared it w/ my husband. I tell him everything, which is totally different than a lot of women in this part of the world or maybe the world over. I know many women who keep secrets from their husbands... some are little white lies, but some are really big secrets that one shouldn't keep from their spouse... because if the spouse ever found out - well, there could be trouble. But hey... some ppl live their lives like this.

In the States, the secrets I knew were mainly due to shopping... well, and a few others ;) but I'll never tell!! I knew this one girl that would buy clothes and keep them in her trunk until her husband wasn't around and then take the clothes inside, take off all the tags, hang things or put things away, and if her husband commented, she'd say "oh, I've had that for years". Men can be stupid, you know. Or maybe they play dumb because I often wondered if she thought her husband would never find out. What happened when the bills came in? But then again, she probably paid for her own stuff and he paid for his own stuff and it was never shared and such. This happens a lot in American culture.

I personally don't find it wise to keep secrets too often. I don't like being told secrets... ok, unless they're really too delicious to turn away! ;) It always makes me nervous for some reason... I guess for fear that I'll slip and say something. I've been told by girls, "don't tell your husband", but you know... if they don't want him to know, they shouldn't tell me and I always tell them this.

I die inside trying to keep something from him. And... if he later found out that I knew this or that and didn't share it, I think he'd get pissed for the mere fact that I didn't share it sooner! ;) But then again, maybe not... I guess it would depend on the secret!

10 comments:

jahooni said...

my secret:

I don't tell my hubby that I spend tons of money on scrapbooking stuff (but I know he knows for the mere fact that I have cases and cases of it!) Us Americans are wierd.

Leilouta said...

hahaha...My sister in-law does the same thing. She keeps her love for shopping at Target, and outlet malls a secret until the bills arrive.

jahooni said...

Can we really tell secrets on here? Hymmmn?

The Moody Minstrel said...

Am I good at keeping secrets?

Uh...it depends on what and from whom...

(Is that a cop-out, or what?)

One Wink at a Time said...

I'm famous in my little world for being able to keep secrets. Sometimes its hard but it's a priority of mine. Someone confides in me, it stays with me. Period.

Greg said...

Hey Tooners,

sorry to have been away so long. Anyhow, here's something I keep away from the wife: I am thinking of returning to the U.S. Promise not to tell?

Greg said...

Sorry, I had to do that. We'll see how good you are at these things:)

tooners said...

greg, i'm REALLY good at keeping secrets! :)

tooners said...

and greg, that's FABULOUS news!! you'll have to give all the details now... ;)

Greg said...

tooners: I know for a fact you're good at keeping secrets. No worries there. As far as my plans, I'll have to discuss things with my folks when I get to Chicago and we'll see. I'd like to get a job writing for a local newspaper. If I succeed(and I certainly hope I do), the wife will join me in America about half a year from now. We want to make sure I last and make good headway wherever I find employment, so that she won't have to move from place to place.

I encourage you to participate in any discussion you have strong opinions on on my blog. I didn't respond very civilly to your last comment and I just wanted you to know no harm was meant.

Best, Greg.